Sometimes you just gotta start somewhere, so why not right here, right now.
You see, this entire time, the one thing holding you back from enjoying your desires, achieving your dreams, and accomplishing your goals is…
Wait! You’re probably not ready to read that.
If you’ve just discovered my website and you’re clicking around trying to understand what it’s all about, here are three scenarios which capture why you’re here and what you’ll find (more or less):
Scenario #1. I’m so fucking lost in life
This totally sucks. There’s nothing worse than waking up in the morning and not knowing what you’re going to do or why you’re doing the things you’re doing.
When you’re feeling so fucking lost in life, it’s like being stuck in a constant state of chaos. There’s so much confusion, and it makes every decision feel like the wrong decision.
All the things you were taught in school as well as all the people who tell you what to do and how to think — well — that’s never helpful. There’s so much noise in the world, and it’s making it impossible to find the meaning of your existence.
What are you doing with your life? How do you spend (or waste) your time? If you know the ideal version of your life and situation, what can you do to achieve it?
Scenario #2. I’m stuck and I can’t get unstuck
This happens sometimes.
There are always situations we get ourselves into and have no idea how to get back out. Sometimes depression makes the way forward foggy and unfocused. Maybe it’s anxiety that makes every step scary and uncertain. Or, it could be a relationship that’s holding you back and bringing you down.
Whatever it is, you’re stuck and you have not had any traction, movement, or momentum for an entire month, the past year, or quite possibly, your whole life.
When are things going to start working out for you? What can you do differently achieve a different outcome? How can you kickstart the engine to a new future full of opportunity, wealth, and abundance?
Scenario #3. I’m searching for something, but I don’t know what I’m supposed to be looking for
Aside from expensive embryos being injected with sperm and implanted into a rich woman’s belly, for the rest of humanity, there was a woman and a man who did the dirty then voila — you appeared!
Well, courtesy of human sexual desires and unmentionable actions, there are more than 7 billion of us wandering around the earth.
A few of us have it all figured out. Some of us know how to make things work and maintain it for a good period of time. Meanwhile, the rest of us have no fucking clue what we’re supposed to do, and looking for it is like playing hide-and-seek with an invisible friend.
What exactly are you supposed to be looking for when you go “in search” for yourself? How can you possibly know if you’ve “found” it? Was there ever something to find or is it all a matter of choosing something to do?
Just a heads up — I swear occasionally.
So, if you’re going to read my articles, you might stumble across words like s***, f***, and a****** (without the *’s).
Also, I promise I’ll never try trick you into finding your self by joining a yoga retreat in Bali (that kind of stuff isn’t for everyone). Nor will I advise you to trip out on psychedelics so you can speak with your spirit animal about the philosophical facts of life.
And, if you haven’t figured it out by now, this website is where I publish my thoughts, research, and stories on topics listed below (see Footer).
Anyway, this is the start of a journey that I might be a part of — or — something you do entirely on your own.
The fact is, we’re all alone in life and forced to find our own way, our own path, our own destiny. It’s not easy when there are so many opinions, ideas, laws, and rules that try to misdirect us one way or another. However, the only real factor that influences your ability to do things, accomplish things, and receive things is… you.
If you truly want to have a life worth living, a life that’s focused and determined and centered on your purpose — you gotta overcome the only thing that’s going to hold you back from turning thoughts into actions, dreams into reality, failures into success…
As you explore my website, I hope there’s something here to guide you along the way, help you get out of a sticky situation, or lead you to the answers you were searching for. Or, perhaps you’re just looking for some random stuff to read.
Here’s to your journey and the experiences you’ll discover along the way.
Jef van de Graaf
P.S. Can I ask you three questions?